Thrive Like a Mother Podcast
I'm Ebony and I'm a mama to 3 beautiful souls. I'm learning how navigate my trauma healing while building the life I never dreamed was possible. I'm a survivor of childhood abuse and for the longest time, I believed that if anyone knew my story, I wouldn't be worthy of love. Many years later and now I know that it far from the truth.
On the Thrive Like a Mother podcast, I'll share the resources and tools I use on the daily to cultivate a healthy mindset break the wheel of survival. Here we're about honesty and transparency. Because at the root of it all, my purpose in creating this podcast is so that you know you are never alone in your journey.
There may be laughter, there may be tears and we'll do it all by linking arms and learning to thrive together.
Thrive Like a Mother Podcast
Sincerely, a perfectionist in healing
A conversation about a family photo wall led to one of those unexpected moments of clarity that only children can provide. My 6 year old daughter, staring at a professional photograph from daycare years, wished we could return to our "old house" where the toys looked so perfectly arranged. The truth? That perfection was merely a photographer's backdrop – a manufactured image that existed for just a moment before reality resumed.
It sparked a revelation in me about how we often chase perfection at the expense of actually living our lives. We see the pristine homes on social media, the perfect family portraits, the organized playrooms – and we wish our reality matched that impossible standard. But behind most perfect images is either an elaborate staging or someone working constantly behind the scenes, sacrificing precious moments of actually living to maintain an appearance.
As a self-proclaimed "perfectionist in healing," I've spent too many years chasing an unattainable ideal, especially as a mother of three. What I'm learning now in my 30's is that perfection demands a steep price. When we prioritize how our lives look over how they feel, we miss the beautiful chaos of real living. This doesn't mean abandoning all organization; rather, it means finding a flow and giving ourselves grace because life in itself is imperfect.
If this resonates with you, share it with someone who might need this reminder today. You are worthy, you are enough, and your messy, joy-filled life deserves to be lived, not just arranged for display.
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Hey, love, I'm Ebony and welcome to Thrive Like a Mother On this podcast. We're scared for our truth, but that fear is what fuels us to truly live in it. You're in the right place if you feel like you're stuck in survivor mode and you're ready to step into who you were truly meant to be. I'll share resources and tools I use daily to help you in your journey towards a healthier mindset and to break the wheel of survival. The journey may not be easy, but you won't have to face it alone. I'm a mama of three, healing day by day from past trauma, and I'm on a mission to build a life I've always dreamed of but never thought was possible. So, love, if you're ready to believe in what's possible, let's link arms and thrive together.
Ebony Fleming:Hey, loves, and welcome to another episode of Thrive Like a Mother.
Ebony Fleming:So I want to take y'all into the world of the conversations between my daughter and I. When they, as they get to start to get older, I'm realizing our conversations start to become more and more fun and we talk about just things in the world and I swear, every once in a while she says something, something that gives me like a revelation. So the other day, liv and I. We were looking at pictures on the wall. We have a little photo wall in our house and it was one of the pictures back when her and her sister were in the same daycare. They were a little bit closer and I don't think Liv had started school yet. And she's looking at this picture and she said I wish we could go back to our old house and I'm like what is she talking about? We don't have any pictures of our old house on the wall and so I'm wondering why she said that. And I asked her. I always ask your kids questions, y'all Ask the follow-ups but her response she was pointing to this picture of her and Jade and she was like look how nice those toys are right there.
Ebony Fleming:And I was like, okay, first of all I had to explain to her that the toys in the photo were from a backdrop, and then I had to explain also number two that for anything to even look close to the way that photo was looking someone had to put it that way Someone had to be in the back cleaning up all those toys all the time. And even then absolute perfection was not going to be possible, because we're just in a season right now, especially if you have kids who are six and under, where we like to play with our toys but we don't necessarily like the part of putting them away. And so I start to see these wheels in her mind like turning, processing, trying to understand everything that I said. And then my wheels started turning right.
Ebony Fleming:Like I said, every once in a, your kids will give you something that gives you an epiphany, and you're like whoa, okay, this can relate to other things in my life or someone else's life, and so it can be so easy sometimes to look at a photo or a representation of someone else's life and to think you know, look at that perfection. I wish that I had that, but in reality, would we really want that? That kind of perfection to me feels like more work putting into looking like the perfect life instead of actually taking the time to live in it. So the point of today's episode and this is a short one the point of today's episode is to not say to never clean up right.
Ebony Fleming:It's not to say don't spend your life making. It's basically to say don't spend your life making sure everything is pristine, that you forget to live Sincerely, a perfectionist and healing.
Ebony Fleming:Thank you so much for listening love. If anything in today's episode resonated with you, share it with your bestie or share it on social media and tag me so we can chat about it, as always, sending you light and love, and remember you are worthy, you are enough and you deserve to thrive.
