Thrive Like a Mother Podcast
I'm Ebony and I'm a mama to 3 beautiful souls. I'm learning how navigate my trauma healing while building the life I never dreamed was possible. I'm a survivor of childhood abuse and for the longest time, I believed that if anyone knew my story, I wouldn't be worthy of love. Many years later and now I know that it far from the truth.
On the Thrive Like a Mother podcast, I'll share the resources and tools I use on the daily to cultivate a healthy mindset break the wheel of survival. Here we're about honesty and transparency. Because at the root of it all, my purpose in creating this podcast is so that you know you are never alone in your journey.
There may be laughter, there may be tears and we'll do it all by linking arms and learning to thrive together.
Thrive Like a Mother Podcast
Your path, your pace: Nobody else has to understand it
Have you ever been asked if you have too much on your plate? In this episode I'm talking the woman who feels pulled in multiple directions while others question her capacity to handle it all.
When someone asks "isn't that a lot?" – whether about starting a business while raising children, pursuing education alongside your career, or juggling multiple creative projects – it can trigger a spiral of self-doubt. Through personal experience and heartfelt guidance, we explore why these questions often come from a place of love, yet still manage to shake our confidence in our chosen direction.
The truth? Not everyone will understand your unique journey – and they don't need to. Your capacity, your timing, your dreams – they belong to you alone. They're yours.
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Hey, love, I'm Ebony and welcome to Thrive Like a Mother On this podcast. We're scared for our truth, but that fear is what fuels us to truly live in it. You're in the right place if you feel like you're stuck in survivor mode and you're ready to step into who you were truly meant to be. I'll share resources and tools I use daily to help you in your journey towards a healthier mindset and to break the wheel of survival. The journey may not be easy, but you won't have to face it alone. I'm a mama of three, healing day by day from past trauma, and I'm on a mission to build a life I've always dreamed of but never thought was possible. So, love, if you're ready to believe in what's possible, let's link arms and thrive together. Hey, loves, welcome back to another episode of the Thrive Like a Mother podcast Today, y'all of the Thrive Like a Mother podcast today, y'all.
Speaker 1:Today, I'm talking to the woman who feels like you are being pulled in so many different directions. I'm talking to the woman who, like me, or similar to me, you are multi-passionate. Sometimes, when you are multi-passionate, you can start to second guess yourself because of an opinion that someone else shared about the season that you're in and what you're doing. So this episode, y'all this one is a reminder, and I say it often, I've said it often throughout this season, throughout this entire year, and it's going to continue. Your path is your path, your path is your path, your pace is your pace, your process all of that is yours, and so we're getting some tough love. Today. No one, no one else I don't care who it is and we're going to chat about some of the reasons you might be receiving, you know, feedback, but no one else has to understand what you're doing in this season of life, the many passions that you have. No one has to understand all of them for it to be valid, for it to be still the thing that you need to be going for, or the things that you need to be going for, or the things that you need to be working towards. And so let's have some real talk. Let's have some real talk.
Speaker 1:People are going to have opinions about what you should or shouldn't be doing in a specific season of your life, and this y'all this goes heavy for my mamas, who you know, when you have little ones and maybe you start to pick up a passion project, maybe you start building your own business. Whatever it is that you're doing, someone, someone is going to come more than often and say like, hey, isn't that a lot? I've heard it, I've heard it so many times. Y'all. A lot of the times, those opinions, they're not coming from a place of you know, they're not coming from a bad place, they're coming from a place of love, a place of concern for you, like in your well-being, really coming from a point of trying to protect you, right. But even if it is well-meaning most of the times, most of the times it is but it can still be hard to listen and absorb that because if you're working towards your goals, right, and you're doing the things, and suddenly someone asks you is that too much? Immediately in your head, you ask yourself to respond right. But then that starts to get the doubt to start creeping into what you've been doing to your purpose, your path, and you start to question yourself, especially if it is coming from someone who you know loves you and you know it's not coming from a place of ill will. You know that it's someone that really does want the best for you. It's hard to hear that really does want the best for you. It's hard to hear that. So I want to give you some ways to kind of navigate through that and truly understand, like, what you do with that information Because, like I said, it can start to go left.
Speaker 1:You can start to doubt your path and your purpose and start to think maybe I am doing too much. Like I've been there, you are talking to a very multi-passionate woman. Y'all know I talk about it on the podcast the many things that I work towards that. I feel like all of it is still working together towards my purpose and my path. But sometimes someone looking outside, looking in, can look at it and say, wow, that's a lot, you know. Or the question I've gotten a lot is like how do you manage it all? How can you possibly do it all? And so, like you hear the comment, you hear the question and you're spiraling right. Am I doing it wrong? Maybe they might be right, maybe I do have a lot on my plate, or is there something that I'm missing? Is there something else that I need to be doing differently? And so here are some things that I've learned Take the feedback when they say it, take it, listen, receive it and hold space for it.
Speaker 1:Just hold space for it within yourself. Don't allow it to start to make you start spiraling out, but get curious. Get curious If someone's asking you the question, like it's an opportunity maybe not to immediately respond and like defend yourself, but do get curious and tune back in within yourself and say, is this too much? Am I okay? How is my capacity right now? How am I feeling? How's my mindset, how's my mind health? How is my body? How am I feeling with what I have on my plate? Because guess what your body is going on my plate, because guess what your body is going to tell you. If it is too much, it is going to tell you loudly sometimes if you are ignoring it. And so tune back in with self, listen into your spirit in those quiet moments and don't feel like you need to immediately respond moment. And don't feel like you need to immediately respond. Sometimes it's just a you know, hey, is that too much? Maybe sometimes take a moment and say you know what I'm going to think about it. Thanks for you know, thanks for bringing it up right.
Speaker 1:Because it is a moment for you to get curious and ask yourself the question, not in a way to defend against what they've asked, but to really, really tune into yourself, and these are things like tuning in with you is something that you can do, often on your own right. But sometimes, when we get focused in on goals, sometimes we forget to ask ourselves, like if we're doing okay, if this is too much, if there is anything that we need to be doing differently. And so sometimes asking the question, someone asking you the question, is actually a gift, because maybe you haven't asked yourself in a while, maybe you haven't tuned in with self to see, like, how you truly are doing. Because, truly like at the end of the day, y'all, because truly like at the end of the day, y'all, you're the one who's going to know how much is enough or too much for your plate in this season. You're the only one that's going to know that Even the person asking the question you know coming at it from a lens of protection or from, you know, a lens of well-being they're still not going to know exactly what is going to be enough or too much for you in a season, because it's not their plate, and that's okay.
Speaker 1:Sometimes you can feel like you know something's aligned or not. Only you can do that, only you can do that. Only you know that, only you know your pace, only you are able to set your pace, only you can sense when it's time to either slow down or speed up. And that's why y'all I hone in on this message so much about listening in and tuning in within yourself, because it's only you, it's only you that knows like what your healing looks like, what your family needs, what you need right now, what your capacity is right now. It's only you. And so here's the truth.
Speaker 1:That can be hard to sit with sometimes, but not everyone is going to understand your path either, even the ones closest to you that love you you know the most, who are in it and see you working towards these goals every day. Sometimes they may not understand it, and it's really like I said, it's because it's not their plate, it's not their path, it's because it's your path and it's uniquely yours, and I love that about humanity. I love that. We each have our own plates to fill, we each have our own paths to walk, and sometimes that can get lonely. But I want you to think of it as from a lens of if they don't understand, okay, that's fine. They're walking their own path, they've got their own things on their plate. Their sole purpose is not to always check in with what's going on on our plate and understanding fully what's on our plate. We're all walking different paths. We're all walking with different dreams. We're all walking with our own timing.
Speaker 1:And okay, somebody may not understand Maybe it's the closest person to you, maybe you really truly want them to understand Guess what they don't have to understand to be able to support you. They don't Not fully, not fully. They don't have to understand why you said no to an opportunity or why you said yes to yet another opportunity, or why you haven't gone back to work yet, why you're keeping your baby at home while you start work again. They don't have to understand why you're starting that business when it feels like your life is already so full, with the kids and the appointments and all the things. That's okay. It's not your job to explain your every single move and really, truly, your job is to keep walking your path. It's to keep showing up for you, for your family, for your growth. It's for you, right. It's your job to keep doing that.
Speaker 1:So if you have been listening to this today and you're in this space where maybe you're questioning yourself because of a question, someone asked you whether it's that. Is that too much? How do you handle it all? Whatever the question is, it's okay to take a moment to ask yourself the question because of someone else's opinion, but always come back to you, always check in with your body, check in with your peace, check in with your capacity, check in to see if your spirit is rising or shrinking with your path that you're on Now. If you're shrinking, your body is loudly telling you that you need to slow down or we need to pivot or we need to something. Don't ignore that y'all. Please don't ignore you. I will be firsthand to tell you that ignoring it gets you nowhere, but down for a little bit longer than maybe if you had listened that first time. If your body's telling you to hey, yes, this actually is too much. You know it's okay to ask that question y'all, because you will always know you really, really do.
Speaker 1:And I want us to start trusting ourselves more. I want us to have that safe space within ourselves to ask ourselves the question and answer honestly, like seriously, answer like okay, yes, this actually might be too much. What do I need to do? What do I need to do so that I lighten my load? And so we're going to circle back around. Not everybody's going to get it. Not everybody's going to get it. Let them, let them not get it. There's my Mel Robbins moment. If you have not read that book yet, by the way, y'all, I am still working my way through it but let them not understand. Let them because, again, like it's not their job, and y'all thank you. Let them because, again, like it's not their job, and y'all thank you. Thank you. Always If you have noticed a shift on the podcast this season, I have been coming to y'all with my heart, like every single episode, and so just thank you to everyone who has been allowing me to share that with you just by tuning in to every episode, has been allowing me to share that with you just by tuning in to every episode.
Speaker 1:Y'all have no idea how much like that impacts me and how much it lets me know keep going. What you're saying, someone out there needs to, needs to hear it and listen in, and so if this episode gave you that permission that you didn't know you needed, you needed because sometimes we need it right. Sometimes we need to understand that we don't have to defend our path to anyone. Sometimes we need that reminder. So if you got that today, please share it with either another mama or another woman who you know is working towards some big-ass goals, and they may be getting some questions from, maybe the people that they love, or maybe just you know, strangers even. Please send this episode to them, because they may need to hear it too, and y'all.
Speaker 1:So until next time, please keep trusting your path, keep listening within time. Please keep trusting your path, keep listening within and keep honoring your pace, because it's yours. Remember, we're going to keep saying that. I think that's the theme of this season. It's yours, it's already yours, and let's keep thriving together. I'll see y'all on the next one. Thank you so much for listening. Love. If anything in today's episode resonated with you, share it with your bestie or share it on social media and tag me so we can chat about it, as always, sending you light and love, and remember you are worthy, you are enough and you deserve to thrive.
